What Lupus Has Taught Me About Life
There are many things I have learned through my lupus journey. While I would honestly rather not have lupus, there are some things I think I may not have known about myself, or others, if I hadn’t developed the disease.
1. Setting Boundaries
Full disclosure, I’m still learning this one. I still find it difficult to say no to people or cancel plans if I’m not feeling well.
I have learned that sometimes you have to say no and can’t ruminate on the consequences. This sometimes means being firm with your family and friends and letting them know that sometimes you need to rest, or there are things you are unable to fully participate in because you may not feel well.
Or, sometimes if friends and family want to see you, they will have to come to you instead of the other way around.
Although I’m still learning how to do this completely, even after almost 12 years of lupus, I don’t think I would be able to do it at all if I didn’t have lupus. The nature of my personality is to acquiesce to others, so lupus has, in a way, forced me to stand up for myself.