Julie asks: 'I was married for almost 30 years and a stay home mom diagnosed with lupus about 15 years into the marriage. When I went through my divorce because my judge was ignorant about lupus I was treated horribly. I did not have an income so could not afford an attorney and opposing attorney convinced the judge that lupus was not a big deal and that I should support myself. I do not qualify for disability since I did not work but my ex was making over 10,000 (even more now) a month and I live just above poverty level. Is there anyone who can help us?'